Thus, it cannot be concluded from this data that early or child marriage has any more deleterious
consequences than later marriage, and, furthermore, the high prevalence of reported suicidal
ideation in the non-child bride group suggests rather that marriage itself may be a cause of
significant stress for women.
7. Prevention of Child Marriages
7.1 Avoid abandoning the pregnant child
When a girl became pregnant, it was culturally accepted that she be sent away to stay with the
man responsible. After parents prepared for their children to go to school, had bought uniforms
and paid school fees among other things, a child who then fell pregnant was perceived as a very
big disappointment; hence many parents would withdraw that child from school in anger.
However, many respondents indicated that, while anger was a logical reaction to the
disappointment, it was also a major cause of child marriage. After being chased away from
home, and being withdrawn from school, effectively the child would be left with no other viable
alternatives except to run to the man who impregnated her and plead with or coerce him into
marrying her. Respondents felt that parents should assist their children by taking care of the
children born out of such unplanned pregnancies, as this would enable their child to continue
with her education so that she can be able to fend for herself and her baby in future. Abandoning
the child exposed the child to ills such as prostitution and drug abuse. According to younger
respondents this was synonymous with condemning their own child to a career of part time
menial work, dependence on the husband and most critically, a life of poverty.
7.2 Need for convergence of ideas on morality
One main theme reverberating through the child brides’ responses was that their perception of
morality was quite different from that held by their parents. For the younger generations, it was
perfectly normal and acceptable for a girl to be seen moving around while holding hands with
boys. On the contrary, the older generations saw such behaviour as intrinsically immoral and
reflective of a depraved youth. Inevitably, younger girls would innocently associate and play
with boys in public in full view of their parents and relatives who did not approve of such
behaviour. In fact, all girls who were seen associating with male acquaintances in public were
viewed as having loose morals, and generally viewed as leaning towards prostitution. Thus,
when a girl reported to her parents that she was raped the parents and the wider community
doubted her story. And more importantly, when she fell pregnant she was readily attacked for
seducing the man and generally for exhibiting herself to men as a sex object. In terms of
preventing child marriages, there is a need for more dialogue between parents and their teenage
daughters to create some sort of convergence of views about acceptable and unacceptable
behaviour. This would go a long way towards preventing the ill-informed chasing away of
children by their parents as this was a major catalyst for child marriage.
7.3 Provision of Counselling services
It is inescapable that when the girl child became pregnant in her teenage it is a shocking and
disheartening encounter. The resulting anger, disgust and feelings of anguish and being betrayed
are unavoidable and are bound to happen to most parents who will be looking forward to their
child being properly married. The provision of counselling services will help the parents to re25
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