huge number of mothers and aunts had effectively abdicated their traditional functions of
protecting and nurturing girls into becoming good women.
According to the respondents from the FGDs, the age difference between the child brides and the
older men was usually so large that the girl would be young enough to be a daughter to the
husband. Several responses aptly drive home this view commonly held among respondents:
“…ivo madhara iwaya anendebvu anenge akagara mumota akagukuchira mwana mudiki iye
ariye munhu mukuru anofanirwa kucounsellor mwana” meaning the old men with big bellies
should be the ones to counsel their children instead of being involved in relationships with them
and “…at some funeral I went to the man who was said to be the son-in-law was so old his death
was really imminent.”
According to some Focus Group Discussants, when a “mudhara” (older man) was interested in a
particular girl, he would buy groceries for the mother of the child so that the mother would entice
her daughter to seduce that man. One respondent described how another woman tried to coerce
her daughter into marrying an older man. Even though the girl cried and refused, the mother
insisted and refused to pay the child’s examination fees only to regret it later after discovering
that man was putting up appearances and did not have the wealth he was pretending to have. One
child bride said she accepts that her reasoning and intellect were not yet fully developed at the
time she agreed to be married as a child bride. The parents, especially the mothers, were not
bothered by the age dynamic and would view their daughter only in an instrumental perspective
and showed no regard for the girls’ desires, fears or whether or not the older husband would
abuse her in that said marriage.
However, this perception is not matched by the data from the interviews with the individual
respondents. Here it was the case that those respondents that reported being child brides were not
married to much older men: for the five cases, none of the husbands were older than 25, and the
women were all older than 15.
3.2.8 Religious coercion
Several respondents who claimed to belong to the Johanne Marange Apostolic sect gave an
interesting insight into child marriage within their church. They laid the biggest blame on
virginity testing which they said was done by the church “kurukova”/ by the river/stream. In this
process, girls were forced to undergo virginity testing, and those so found to be virgins were
encouraged to marry “normal” ordinary boys with whom they would have developed love
relations on their own accord. However, the girls who would be deemed to have lost their
virginity were the given over to the old man to be married as second wives.
“What I know is that those who are given in marriage are the ones who would have
been found to not be virgins when they are checked for virginity at the river, those
are the ones who are married off to old men. No, let me explain, I was a member of
that church for years, the church elders come and pray for you and start asking
you questions about your identity and who you are with and if you tell them they
will not give you rest they will follow you until you give in”.
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