Exercise 1 River of life exercise The exercise invites the participant to think of their life as a river. The spring is where they were born. That spring then flows on as they grew up, represented by the flowing river. The challenges that the participants experience shall be signified either by rocks in the river or heavy weather. The participants can also show the moments that were very good for them and those that influenced who they are in ways they prefer. The exercise will unfold as follows: A - Can you draw a river that shows your life? In drawing this river please include: - Your family situation and important people in your life, those who brought both negative and positive effects into your life; Where you lived throughout your life, indicating instances when you moved from one place to another; Important events in your life, both positive and negative. These events must reflect how you think they are Important in determining how you developed and the person you have become. B – Please explain what you drew and all the things that you put on your river. What do they mean?. Exercise 2 Life Story This element of the research will seek to interrogate in great detail, participants’ understanding of their own marriage. The exercise will seek to know how the participants describe their married lives in four stages namely;     The period prior to the marriage; The point at which they entered into marriage; The period immediately after they got married; Their perception of their marriage now For each specific stage, the researchers will seek to understand the following: a. When did the marriage happen? b. How did it happen? c. What else was going on in the lives of the participants at that time? d. What were the prevailing circumstances in the lives of the participants at the time that they got married? This will set the context of the event How common was it, for people of the same age or circumstances as the participant, to get married at the time that the participant did? Did this happen to a lot of people? Do you know anybody? 32